I’ve found I can to some extent avoid thinking about nasty things people have done to me by telling myself: this doesn’t deserve space in my head. I’m always delighted to find I’ve forgotten the details of disputes, because that means I hadn’t been thinking about them. My wife thinks I’m more forgiving than she is, but my motives are purely selfish.
I like the idea presented in this article. Try and keep the things that are interesting and important at the front of your mind, don’t get bogged down in unresolvable issues.
